i've been thinking a lot lately about my upcoming discord server rework, and confronting some desires around how to shape the rules and accessibility.
i feel like I finally understand TBD's plight! i'd love to do community projects where my server can come together and hang out or make something... but i also don't want just anyone in the server, cause i'd like it to be a comfort space for me

is that greedy? making a space for people to do art but excluding those who make life more complicated?
it is my space, and i get to dictate the rules, but if for the space to work I need other people, it just gets murky
it also doesn't help that a lot of people I have grievances with don't know my opinions... at this point, i probably would tell them outright if the topic came up, but i avoid them and those topics because they make me uncomfortable.
they're not evil!
but if one found out they were banned or kicked from my server when we've never even had an argument...? that would just be so awkward

i think the solution to this is just to be rock solid about the rules and enforcing them. crack down when the courtesy is broken and set clear expectations. most who I feel have bad behavior can hang out if they learn to behave, yeah? i dunno
in many ways I'd like to build off of blisscord too. i think a server that's open but not advertised is a good fit, "don't make us popular", only accessible via the website

i also just want to bring back safety and openness
i want to have small baby commitments that cobble together into something fun
shitpost night, creepy.zone, shit like that
when's the last time you made a 5 minute set 10 people will hear?